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ANGER
We dislike anger because we have little
compassion and understanding towards ourselves.
We are civilized and mature to the extent we
understand and deal with human anger positively.
Without proper understanding and without
compassion in our hearts there is no remedy for anger.
Whatever be the circumstances, you have to accept
complete and total responsibility for your anger. As long as you
blame others and extraneous conditions for your anger there is no
effective cure.
Anger can be an effective instrument to defend
some one or something, but only when handled with complete mastery
and awareness.
The angrier you are the more competitive you
become. It is true. The extent to which you hate the world you want
to conquer it.
Envy is frustrated anger born out of fear,
helplessness and sense of inadequacy.
When anger is internalized the end becomes more
important than the means.
Often fear wakes up as anger and then sleeps in confusion.
Human love is mostly conditional based upon
self-interest. It therefore frequently degenerates into waves of
anger and bouts of despair.
Anger is the predator that man kind has been
trying to domesticate since the beginning of civilization but with
limited success.
So long as there is selfishness and
self-interest, there will be fear in our minds and anger in our
actions and expressions.
Unconditional love, compassion and understanding
are the means to transform the angry self in you.
When you place the self above all else and live
your entire life defending it, protecting it, fulfilling its hopes
and desires, what else can be with you till the end, except anger?
You are angry with the world because you think
that you are the center of the world and that it should exist to
satisfy your wants and desires. You are angry because you feel you
deserve a better treatment from others. You are angry because you are
unwilling to question your decisions, your expectations, your
assumptions and beliefs. You are angry with others because you are
not willing to assume any responsibility for your anger.
Do not shout at your children, just because you
are angry or annoyed or unhappy with yourselves or with some one
else. Shout, if you must, but only out of love and compassion and to
show them sincerely the right way or the right means. If you try to
discipline your children out of anger, you are going to make them
equally angry and destructive as they grow. Instead discipline them
out of love and compassion and help them grow into healthy and
positive human beings.
How can you control your children if you lose
your control and become angry with them. If you want to control them
you must be in control of yourselves.
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